Tonight Martin, myself, Elatia, JR and his sister Alix, went to the Look Who's Kickin prenatal spa tonight and got to watch Kaliana for a 1/2 hour! We shoulda brought popcorn and candy for this movie premiere! The kids did bring the flip camera and I taped it all.
It was surreal to see Kaliana. She has hair, it looked like a wee mo-hawk like her daddy. She kept her hand in front of her face at first. Geez last time it was her legs we couldn't get her to move so we could find out if she was a girl or boy. We did see her lady bits this time no probs even though she had her legs crossed at her ankles. This time we just wanted to see that face of hers. Eventually she moved her arm so we could see her beautiful wee face. She has chubby lil cheeks already. Her thighs looked chubby too! We watched as she moved around, stuck her tongue out and even smiled! Yup! Kaliana gave us a smile! We have a picture of it. Hmmm wonder if her Uncle Andrew had anything to do with that.
At one point she did look like she had a zombie mouth! The umbilical cord was in front of her mouth and apparently they like to suck on it. I did not know that. Well, it definitely makes the mouth look like she had been eating brains or something!
We got to count her fingers and toes. Looks like she has her some pretty full lips too! The sonogram tech would push around Elatia's belly to get Kaliana change position, and we could see the belly movement on the screen, too funny. All of us are just so excited to meet her! It's definitely motivating me to get her room all ready for her and decorated! This baby girl is so loved!
So far, us and J.R.'s family are gelling and working together as a family to welcome in Kaliana which pleases me beyond belief. I want nothing more than all of us to be as one family for this little girl and I will do what it takes to make sure it happens!
I am one happy Grammy C tonight!
IT'S ALL GOOD IN THIS GRAMMY-HOOD!
Tuesday, January 25, 2011
Friday, January 21, 2011
OUT OF BOUNDS
Because Martin and I lost the physical presence of our son, we are very aware of trying not to over step any bounds as grandparents. Doesn't mean we won't cross any, just means we are aware of them. It's hard for any grandparent to not cross boundaries that hasn't had the tremendous loss we have experienced, so Martin and I have to work extra hard not to. But since it was done to me, I kind of have an idea what it feels like having boundaries crossed ALL of the time in the beginning, so I am very aware of my boundaries as a grandparent. SO I keep reminding myself, I am the GRANDparent, I am the GRANDparent, I am the GRANDparent! Just when you finally figured out this parenting thing, you get to be a grandparent not the parent. No complaints here, I'll take it! To be able to see life through a child's eyes again is so exciting for us and worth staying in bounds for.
Now that it is getting close to Kaliana's arrival, vaccinations is the topic of conversation. It's a heated one to say the least. I posted on my Facebook wall asking what people thought either way. It was quite a hot thread.
Elatia asked that Martin do his kind of research on the topic because she trusts him with Martin having been a research chemist and could make more sense of the reports made about vaccinations. What he found was not pretty. If we had our say, we would NOT vaccinate Kalinana, but that is not our decision. Elatia and JR got into their first argument over this.
JR is pretty much a muggle, I know he thinks we are nuts half the time with our woo woo, metaphysical, holistic ways, but his daughter will definitely give him a run for his money! He is in for quite the awakening of what truly is with Kaliana. When she talks about her conversations with her Uncle Andrew, her Angels and Guides, I wanna see the look on his face.
Now,our role as grandparents in my opinion, is to help keep peace and harmony even in tough situations. We are here to support our children to be the best parents they can be, and be better parents than we were. We are also here to help relieve the stress of parenthood. Well, that is my intention anyway. The vaccination situation is the perfect example. We are not here to push our beliefs on Elatia and JR but to give them the facts, answer their questions the best we can and let them make an informed decision as Kaliana's parents. I don't want them to fight over this. I believe once Elaita and JR are informed, they can then discuss what is best for their daughter, and Martin and I will support them no matter what that decision is. That is what being a good grandparent means to me, being supportive. No out of bounds for me! Well, not on a regular basis anyway. ;-)
IT'S ALL GOOD IN THE GRAMMY-HOOD
Now that it is getting close to Kaliana's arrival, vaccinations is the topic of conversation. It's a heated one to say the least. I posted on my Facebook wall asking what people thought either way. It was quite a hot thread.
Elatia asked that Martin do his kind of research on the topic because she trusts him with Martin having been a research chemist and could make more sense of the reports made about vaccinations. What he found was not pretty. If we had our say, we would NOT vaccinate Kalinana, but that is not our decision. Elatia and JR got into their first argument over this.
JR is pretty much a muggle, I know he thinks we are nuts half the time with our woo woo, metaphysical, holistic ways, but his daughter will definitely give him a run for his money! He is in for quite the awakening of what truly is with Kaliana. When she talks about her conversations with her Uncle Andrew, her Angels and Guides, I wanna see the look on his face.
Now,our role as grandparents in my opinion, is to help keep peace and harmony even in tough situations. We are here to support our children to be the best parents they can be, and be better parents than we were. We are also here to help relieve the stress of parenthood. Well, that is my intention anyway. The vaccination situation is the perfect example. We are not here to push our beliefs on Elatia and JR but to give them the facts, answer their questions the best we can and let them make an informed decision as Kaliana's parents. I don't want them to fight over this. I believe once Elaita and JR are informed, they can then discuss what is best for their daughter, and Martin and I will support them no matter what that decision is. That is what being a good grandparent means to me, being supportive. No out of bounds for me! Well, not on a regular basis anyway. ;-)
IT'S ALL GOOD IN THE GRAMMY-HOOD
Thursday, January 20, 2011
WE HAVE A NAME!
FINALLY!! Elatia is over 33 weeks along now! Just 6 1/2 weeks left until I get to meet my granddaughter! And it is only now that Elatia has finally decided on a name! How is that possible? I had her name picked out when I was 15yo, 4 yrs before she was born! So my granddaughter is no longer Voldemort, but instead she is now...drum roll pleeeease! KALIANA STORM MICHAEL! How powerful is this chick gonna be? A. VERY! "Kali" is the Goddess of destruction and then Storm, self explanatory, then Michael, the warrior Angel? Uh-oh! Watch out! The "Ana" part of her name should soften the Kali energy though. Well, here's hopin anyway.
When Elatia told me she was thinking about it, I thought, "hmmmm it's nice" wasn't sure I was totally sold on it. I was still hopin she would go with Andrew Storm maybe. I loved it when she told me if she ever had a girl she would name her Andrew after her brother, Drew for short, and I was disappointed when she decided not to. But when I bought Kaliana a Build A Bear (BAB) lady bug since that is how Elatia is doing her room, and saw Kaliana's name in writing on the bear certificate, I was hooked, even got a little emotional. My granddaughter was becoming more real to me. Right now it just looks like Elatia ate a basketball, not having a baby. Between Andrew's anniversary in Oct, then another holiday season without him, working on the book about him, it's made becoming a Grammy not seem very real. But now having her name is making her more real, and then going to see her in another sonogram next week will also make it very real again. I know the last time we saw her it was the best movie I've ever seen, and now we'll really see what she looks like! My grieving Mama gene will take a back seat, and my Grammy gene will be the front runner again! YAY!
Honestly I can hardly wrap my head around the fact we are REALLY going to be grandparents. We are really going to have our granddaughter in our arms in 6-7 weeks! I can't imagine not having this joy coming in now. How did I ever live without this before? It was so hard, that is for sure! I was wondering why the hell I had to stay here anymore, but now? Now Kaliana has given Martin and I a reason to carry on.
I've been feeling Kaliana moving around, it's fun feeling it from this side. Usually I'm the one pregnant feeling it. We have the other 3-D sonogram appointment next Tuesday on Jan 25th. We are so excited to get a final look at Kaliana before she arrives here.
Martin is going to be working w/Elatia on some hypnotherapy for labor. She has started Lamaze classes, got in by the skin of her teeth. She is realizing she doesn't have all the time in the world like she use to now. I'm planning on having a birthday cake there for when Kaliana is born. I want to welcome her into our family and this planet with a party! I want her to know how much she means to all of us!
Elatia looks wonderful, she has been doing quite well. I haven't blogged in awhile because of work and there really isn't much to tell yet. I haven't even written in Kaliana's journey that I started before we knew she was coming. Life just happens and you get busy. Let's face it, the real fun for us grandparents begins when she gets here. That's when I'll really be in the Grammy-hood.
When Elatia told me she was thinking about it, I thought, "hmmmm it's nice" wasn't sure I was totally sold on it. I was still hopin she would go with Andrew Storm maybe. I loved it when she told me if she ever had a girl she would name her Andrew after her brother, Drew for short, and I was disappointed when she decided not to. But when I bought Kaliana a Build A Bear (BAB) lady bug since that is how Elatia is doing her room, and saw Kaliana's name in writing on the bear certificate, I was hooked, even got a little emotional. My granddaughter was becoming more real to me. Right now it just looks like Elatia ate a basketball, not having a baby. Between Andrew's anniversary in Oct, then another holiday season without him, working on the book about him, it's made becoming a Grammy not seem very real. But now having her name is making her more real, and then going to see her in another sonogram next week will also make it very real again. I know the last time we saw her it was the best movie I've ever seen, and now we'll really see what she looks like! My grieving Mama gene will take a back seat, and my Grammy gene will be the front runner again! YAY!
Honestly I can hardly wrap my head around the fact we are REALLY going to be grandparents. We are really going to have our granddaughter in our arms in 6-7 weeks! I can't imagine not having this joy coming in now. How did I ever live without this before? It was so hard, that is for sure! I was wondering why the hell I had to stay here anymore, but now? Now Kaliana has given Martin and I a reason to carry on.
I've been feeling Kaliana moving around, it's fun feeling it from this side. Usually I'm the one pregnant feeling it. We have the other 3-D sonogram appointment next Tuesday on Jan 25th. We are so excited to get a final look at Kaliana before she arrives here.
Martin is going to be working w/Elatia on some hypnotherapy for labor. She has started Lamaze classes, got in by the skin of her teeth. She is realizing she doesn't have all the time in the world like she use to now. I'm planning on having a birthday cake there for when Kaliana is born. I want to welcome her into our family and this planet with a party! I want her to know how much she means to all of us!
Elatia looks wonderful, she has been doing quite well. I haven't blogged in awhile because of work and there really isn't much to tell yet. I haven't even written in Kaliana's journey that I started before we knew she was coming. Life just happens and you get busy. Let's face it, the real fun for us grandparents begins when she gets here. That's when I'll really be in the Grammy-hood.
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